OMG, you guys, I just spent my weekend at the most amazing conference hosted by Institute for Integrative Nutrition.
It was a weekend filled with 1,000+ like minded people (okay, almost entirely women) listening to arguably some of the biggest names in integrative medicine and holistic health and wellness (Dr. Oz was one of many).
It was the perfect weekend for me to geek out HARD over all things healthy living.
While I learned SO much and was trying so hard to both listen to every.single.word spoken while memorizing it-FOREVER, haha-some points REALLY stood out and I want to share them with you because I found them incredibly poignant and profound.
Marie Forleo totally blew me away.
I’m sure some (many!) of you have heard of her as she is THE woman behind B-School-which is huge. Her story is incredibly inspiring and she’s as down to Earth, inspiring, and REAL as they come. I strongly encourage all of you to check her out.
She discussed this idea of painting a picture of your life and business 3 years from now.
Take some time out of your busy day (you DO have time, don’t even start ;) ) and actually sit down and write down every last detail of how you want your life and career to look and feel 3 years from now.
What does your life look like?
What does your life feel like?
What does your life sound like?
Where do you live?
What do your weekends look like?
Do you travel?
What do you spend your non-working time doing?
Are you married?
What does your schedule look like?
What does your bank account look like?
Do you have pets?
Do you have kids?
If you own a business do you have a staff?
Are you out of a bad relationship/marriage and single?
Write down every.single.detail.
Think Van Gogh painting. You all know what Van Gogh works look like, right? With all the “dots” of color creating one fluid, beautiful piece of work?
Yeah, well that is the kind of detail that should be in YOUR picture.
From this picture, create a yearly calendar broken down into a master project list, weekly priorities, and daily actions.
Guys, I love love LOVE this concept.
The next step?
Write down the top 7 excuses you always use to hold yourself back from living the life you want.
Here’s my favorite part: go through that list of 7 excuses and call bull shit on every one.
Not quite getting it? I’ll share mine:
1. I don’t have the money- BULL SHIT!
2. I don’t know enough-BULL SHIT!
3. I don’t know how to start-BULL SHIT!
4. I’m not experienced enough-BULL SHIT!
5. I’m a phony-other women are the perfect picture of healthy living and I like…well, living too much, how will anyone ever follow health advice from a girl who eats dessert and drinks beer?-BULL SHIT!
6. I don’t have the time-BULL SHIT!
7. I don’t have a clear vision-BULL SHIT!
See? Isn’t this fun? :)
5 years ago I wouldn’t have had the self awareness to call bull shit on myself, now I find joy and inspiration in it. ;)
Along those lines you HAVE to start doing everything in your life like a pro.
Marie talked a lot about the idea of pro versus amateur. She discussed that everything you do in your life you do it as if you’re a pro or as if you’re an amateur. She even asked us to think about how we make our breakfast or our beds in the morning.
Do you sloppily slap your breakfast together? Or grab whatever is within arm’s reach? Do you just throw your duvet up and call it good? What IS this, amateur hour??
Start owning everything you do and acting like a pro in every aspect of your life and that will carry over into how you view yourself as a professional and what you get out of both your personal and professional life.
Most of us, I’m sure everyone reading this blog, are incredibly privileged. We have the opportunity to truly follow and live our dreams because we grew up where and how we did.
There is absolutely no reason each and every one of you cannot live the life you want to live.
Cannot have the career or business you want to have.
Think about times in your life when you found a way to make something happen.
Marie used the great example of college and always using the excuses of “I don’t have money” or “I have way too much studying to do” to turn down all sorts of offers you weren’t interested in until the cute boy or cute girl ask you to do something with them.
All the sudden your calendar clears, you have all sorts of free time, you open a new credit card, you set your alarm for 4AM to study, you DO WHATEVER IT TAKES BECAUSE YOU WANT IT.
Relating to self-care and healthy living, I always think of the excuse I hear from people ALL THE TIME.
“I don’t have time to work out.”
You won’t MAKE time to work out.
Okay, easy for me to call others out on that one because I make exercise a priority.
But what excuses do I use for myself all the time?
I don’t have time, I don’t have money, the time is not right (<–that last one is absolutely ridiculous, the time is NEVER right).
Bull shit, bull shit, bull shit.
I know it, you know it.
So here’s my challenge for you today.
Paint your picture. Write down the top 7 excuses you use that are NOT LETTING YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE.
Come up with 5 action items that you can take to live your life starting NOW.
We ALL know what we truly want but in studies (this will be a whole other post, get excited! haha), people would would rather be miserable but safe , even though over and over when people are asked to write their own prescription for how to heal themselves (and their lives) they KNOW and can shout an answer instantaneously (spoiler alert: it’s things like “I would quit my job”).
The worst thing of all is to die with regret. Do NOT wake up 6 months from now with the same dream doing the same non-actions. Holding yourself back with the same excuses.