You are allowed to feel and express your emotions. There is no such thing as “young women don’t show anger”
You have the right to move away from using the word “bossy” if you happen to be more outspoken, too much of a “go-getter”, more expressive than society thinks women should be. You are not bossy, you are a woman displaying “typically” male behaviors. Oh, and you may also find yourself in a leadership or entrepreneurial position one day, or in a field that was once dominated be men.
Men are taught to apologize for their weaknesses,
women for their strengths.
Your plans and dreams may get derailed. If this happens, you are allowed to react however it is you need to in order to begin the healing process, in order to figure out how you want to reassess and move forward. Whether or not you need to be alone and cry for 48 hours or be angry at the world for 48 hours (or longer!), you are doing EXACTLY what you need to be doing for YOU. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for expressing a certain emotion to an experience that both hurts and jolts you.
One day you will want to be a grown woman, dreaming of a life you call your own, of a life where you are independent and devoting all your time to following your passion. The very next day you could be hating how scared and alone you feel, never wanting to grow up, just wanting to be a little girl again. You are allowed to feel both ways, neither makes you unappreciative of your life, nor does it mean you are regressing or “growing up too fast”. You are simply coming to terms with what it means to YOU to become a woman.
You may find that you feel the most beautiful when you spend time on your hair and makeup. You may find that you feel the most beautiful when you wear no makeup at all and do nothing but wash and towel dry your hair. Don’t ever let anyone, whether or not that “anyone” is male or female, make you feel like you’re “superficial” or “try too hard” if you happen to feel the former. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like you don’t care or aren’t “put together” if you feel the latter.
Be willing to have an open mind and an open heart to both experiences and people you never thought were a “fit” for you or your lifestyle. You may be swept off your feet when you discover a hidden passion and talent, you may be swept off your feet when you fall deeply in love with the “type” of man you never thought you’d “be” with.
Learn early on how to set boundaries. Repeat after me: ” you are making me very uncomfortable. Walk away, now.”
Learn early on that other women are your friends, and just like you, want the same things out of life. Stop competing with them for attention, jobs, men (boys). Women cut each other down and can be more judgemental about one another’s bodies, slip-ups, or achievements than our male counterparts. Why? We should be on each other’s team, helping pick one another up when we fall and celebrating when we succeed. Every woman deserves to feel smart, beautiful, and fulfilled. Don’t take that away from her.
Never be afraid to fall. You WILL fall. It’s not about the fall, it’s about picking yourself and dusting yourself off with your head held high and a smile on your beautiful face.
The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power.
You just take it.